This month I am going to move house. I am going a bit further north. I am moving in with my new man. Yes, we are going full speed! But do you know what? Why wait when you know this is what you want and this is right?! If you want something, take it! You are only young once and as for me, I don’t want to cry after missed opportunities!
But now here comes the crux:
For now I am going to move without my babies. But this was not entirely my decision. Darling ex wants the little ones to finish their school year before moving. We included them in the decision, asking them what they want.
And with everything new and confusing for them, they want to stay here for now as well. The big ones didn’t want to leave anyway. And to be fair, they are grown up despite their still young age. They do their own decisions. Myself as well as their dad did a pretty good job bringing them up. They don’t need us anymore. They are clever enough to know whats write and whats wrong and what they want from life!
Now, from many sides I got shouted at, that I am leaving my children behind… I am abandoning my children for a new boyfriend…
I tried to explain, that when parents split up it has a big impact on children and I tried to make people understand that it is better for them to stay at their home with their siblings and their father, surrounded by friends for now… but all I hear is:
But they are your children!!! You could have stayed in the same town…
Yes, I know they are mine. I gave birth to them, I raised them! And no, I could not have stayed in the same town as this is a tourist town which means, no jobs with at least a half way decent wage!!! But if said shouting people like to pay my bills for me, sure, I consider staying. That, my friends, is called sarcasm!!!
People find it difficult to understand that a father has the same rights as a mother. So I ask you, where is the difference about a mother going away with her children or a father taking the children?!
I think it would be more harmful if I rip the children out of their environment, away from siblings, father and friends without warning!
This way I can sort out my new position, have some time to look for a nice house for all of us and let the children get used to the idea of moving. And not to forget let their dad get used to the idea to not be around them as often anymore.
I just hope that in the end they really want to move in with me… and if not??? It would make me incredibly sad but in the end it counts what my children want and not what I need!
I’ve been known for being unconventional… what ever life throws in my way, I will make the best of it!