We often hear
“…..let it all out…. just cry…..you feel better after it….”
We cry because we are sad, because we are angry, because we are disappointed and probably because of lots of other things, but does it really make you feel better? Does it change the view or the reason you cried?
We cry because basically we are hurt!
I recently attended a friends funeral. When I heard the sad news I thought I kept it good together. There was a small tear….
I was fine driving down to Wales. I was fine checking into my hotel and have a stroll around the little town and the beach. I slept okay.
I was fine while standing with many others in front of the doors to the little chapel and I also kept it together during mess but when my late friends widow hugged me I really, really had to swallow my tears back and when I was on my way to my car I felt them roll down my cheeks.
So why is that? Is it because I don’t get to talk to him or see him again? Is it because of missed opportunities?
Why do we cry when we argue or when a boyfriend/girlfriend breaks up with you or your partner divorces you?
Is it because we know we will not share our future together? Is it because we know we want have anymore nice moments together? Is it because the future is unclear now?
Looking at it from a distance we should know these things happen, people die, people can turn on you, people don’t want to be with you, it’s just how the world is and yet we are still hurt by actions.
I personally think, “letting it all out” does not make me feel better, if anything it makes me feel worse, tired and yes even tired of life and how life treats me! Not to mention my eyes! After a
good long cry I look like a boxer after a 12 round fight, really no kidding.
It would be nice if there was a button to switch certain emotions on and off, don’t you agree?